Knowing your tendencies.

Most of what we do all day is habitual and routine.
Although that makes our lives easy,
those behaviors may contribute to not making changes-
even if we’ve expressed a desire to do so.

Gretchen Rubin’s latest book, Better Than Before is about mastering the habits of our every day lives.

Part of that mastery comes from knowing ourselves.
One way to know ourselves is to become aware of our tendencies.
Paying attention to how we act and react in certain situations,
what motivates us,
why some change is easy for us,
and why we struggle in other situations.

Take Gretchen’s Four Tendencies Quiz and find out if you tend to be
An Upholder, a Questioner, a Rebel, or an Obliger.
According to Gretchen:
“Upholder—accepts rules, whether from outside or inside. An upholder meets deadlines, follows doctor’s order, keeps a New Year’s resolution. 
Questioner—questions rules and accepts them only if they make sense. They may choose to follow rules, or not, according to their judgment.
Rebel—flouts rules, from outside or inside. They resist control. Give a rebel a rule, and the rebel will want to do the very opposite thing.
Obliger—accepts outside rules, but doesn’t like to adopt self-imposed rules.”

These are not necessarily hard and fast rules about behavior or personality.
The quiz and the categories are intended to help you know yourself a little better
by seeing how you ‘tend’ to act.

Changing our actions, reactions and habits can be challenging.
Perhaps with a sliver of insight that knowing your Tendency might offer,
you may find those changes come a bit easier.
You may see how you can use your Tendency to support 
the new habits you are interested in creating.


Here’s a surprise, (not) I tend to be an Upholder.
(Although I never make New Year’s Resolutions)