Shoulding on yourself……..

This time of year especially it seems that life is full of shoulds.

I should find the perfect presents.
I should bake six kinds of cookies.
I should decorate the house.
I should spend time with family.
I should go to the annual Christmas party.
I should write a Christmas newsletter.
I should___________________.

And just who decided you should do all these things?
Whose voice in your head is it that you are hearing?
And do you really need to pay attention to it?

Maybe some of those shoulds are left over from a different time in your life.
A time when you had different priorities and obligations.
Perhaps they never were things you really enjoyed doing but always did
to please others or to maintain an image or idea of
who you thought you needed to be.

Have these activities become the Clutter of Christmas?
Things you no longer need, use, value or love?
Activities that get in the way of you doing what you really love
with the people you truly care most about?

There is certainly nothing wrong with presents or cookie baking,
decorating your home, or spending time with family.
Unless, of course, you don’t really want to,
or it no longer reflects the life you want to be living.

What’s true is: There is only so much time.
How do you want to spend it?
What choices can you make that support your most heartfelt life?

Your life.
Your choices.
Make them meaningful to you.