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What I know:

It isn't about our stuff.
It's about our connections.

Bigger. Better. More.
Rarely is.

Our best lives create space
in our homes and hearts
for the people and activities
that make us genuinely happy.

You must be present to win.


There really is a limit to the time in your life,

the space in your house, 

and the energy you have to give.

Make conscious choices about how you spend your time.
Looking at a screen, or looking into someone’s face?

Making more money or making stronger connections?

Buying stuff or having experiences?

Ask yourself “How much is enough?”

More is often just that, more.
Five of something isn’t five times better than one,

it’s one, five times over.

The more stuff you have the more you have to store,

maintain, keep track of, keep organized, 

justify and use.

Use limits to help you buy fewer items of better quality.
Choose activities that you actually enjoy.

Spend time with people you honestly care about.

Say no.

If you want to get more done, trying saying No more often.

Focus on the tasks that will yield the results you say you want.

Say No to the people, situations, offers, the expectations of others, obligations and shoulds that don’t reflect what you need or value.

Do less. And do it with more focus, more interest and a clearer understanding of the results you are hoping to achieve.

Oh. And if you’re worried you might miss out: It’s much easier to take back a No than a Yes.

Use the good stuff

Stop saving the nice towels, the good wine, the scented candles.

You are worth the lovely things you’ve been given or have been saving for some mythical special occasion.

Not only will you free up space in the closet, on the shelf, or in the drawer, you will be caring for yourself in kind and tender ways.

Stop waiting or postponing: Use what you have in the life you’re living right now.

Is it worth keeping?

Wait a minute, before you put that item away ask yourself, “Is it worth keeping?”

Putting things away when you’re finished with them is key to eliminating clutter.
Sometimes though it’s a good idea to stop and consider if you really need or want to keep an item.

Before you toss a dried up pen back in the drawer, 
put a chipped cup back on the shelf, 
hang up a shirt that’s a tiny bit too tight, 
or make room for another book on an already crowded shelf, 
ask yourself:  “Is it worth keeping?” 

Is its value equal to the space it uses?
The care it requires?
Will I ever really use/wear/read/need it again?

If it  isn’t, let it go.  (You know-recycle, donate, toss.)

Oh, and let’s not forget the mental or emotional items we’re keeping. 
Is it helpful to hold onto that grudge or resentment, anger or fear?
Would letting go of those stories and memories make space in your head and heart?

You decide what has worth and value in the life you’re living right now.
Thoughtful decisions  about your home and life reflect what you care about and value.

Spend. Save.

Save money.  Spend time.

Spend time.  Save money.

Two different ways to deal with a situation.
Some days you’d rather spend the time.
Other days, it’s a better option to spend the money.

Make conscious choices that support your values,
your energy level, and the results you’re hoping to achieve.


“Organization is about retrieval, not storage.”  Julie Morgenstern

If you needed X, where would you go to find it?
(If you can’t think of a place, perhaps you don’t need to be keeping/storing that item)

Being organized means the things we need and use are easily accessible 
where we need and use them.
It’s things having a logical (to you) place to live.
And it’s easy to return them to their home when you’ve finished using them.

And most importantly:
It isn’t about how the system looks-
it’s about how it functions for you.

(Matchy baskets might look nice, but if it’s out of sight/out of mind
it doesn’t make your life more organized)

Showing up

May we bring wild blessings and fierce love to all we encounter.  Elizabeth Rainey

Have to. Get to.

I have to go to the gym.
I get to experience my strength and stamina.

I have to go to the Holiday Party.
I get to spend time with people I love and don’t see often enough.

I have to participate in the Secret Santa.
I get to surprise someone with a funny and thoughtful gift.

I have to go to work.
I get paid to do something I’m good at and people appreciate.

Self talk and how we frame our experiences 
effects how we feel, and our attitude towards daily experiences.

If there are too many have tos, rethink why you feel they are necessary.
Is it still true?
If it isn’t; permission granted to let those things go.

Try coming from an attitude of gratitude and creativity about how you spend your time.
Make conscious choices that reflect the life you want to be living.

That decision has been made.

You can’t change the past.
Really, you can’t.

No amount of rehashing, rethinking, what iffing, replaying the conversation, 
blaming, playing the victim, or brilliant come back you’ve now thought of
will change what happened a minute, month or years ago.

It is perfectly okay, legitimate and a good idea to consider the consequences
of past actions.
But only if you let what you learned from the situation inform how you might
respond now.

Get out of the past.
Be present with who and what is going on in your life today.
Right now.
Minimize the time you spend looking in your personal rear view mirror.
You’re not going that way.

(Clearing mental clutter is as important as clearing physical space)


“Gift-giving is an important ritual of happiness: it strengthens connections, allows us to express love, thoughtfulness, and appreciation, and gives us a way to be generous.”  Gretchen Rubin

​Just a tiny reminder: 
Make sure the gifts you give don’t end up as clutter in someone else’s life.
(Think:  Experiences, sharing time, things that will get used up)

Thoughtful gift giving enriches the experience for the giver and the receiver.