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What I know:

It isn't about our stuff.
It's about our connections.

Bigger. Better. More.
Rarely is.

Our best lives create space
in our homes and hearts
for the people and activities
that make us genuinely happy.

You must be present to win.

Mine. Mine. Mine.

“Mine. Mine. Mine.”  The seagulls in Finding Nemo


Don’t let your possessions own you

How much time, energy and money do we spend getting more stuff in our lives?
What stuff are we keeping that not longer has meaning, use or value to us?

If you hold on to possessions because you feel it would be wasteful to get rid of them: 
They are controlling you. 

The waste occurred if you purchased things you didn’t really need.
Or already owned by couldn’t find.
Or by not knowing how many is enough.

You’re not saving money by holding on to stuff that you’re not using.
That money is gone.
You got your money’s worth;
either through use, 
or through the learned lesson of buying but not using it.

Be honest with yourself.
That was then, this is now.
Make mindful choices about where, when and how you spend your money.

Time

Time cannot be managed. 
There is no such thing as a time management system. 
What we manage is our behavior – not time. 
Time simply is.”
Krysta Gibson

Decluttering and being more organized are visible proof of how you manage your behaviors.

Make your actions a reflection of what you value.
Behave in ways that allow you to do what you think is important,
and spend time with the people you love.

Letting go

Decluttering is the process of letting go.

Physically letting go of stuff you no longer need, use, love or value.
Mentally letting go of ideas, shoulds and scarcity thinking.
And emotionally letting go of expectations and judgements
that keep you stuck in old patterns, choices and beliefs.

Focus on the things you’re choosing to have in your life and home.
Prioritize time spent doing what you love, and being with people who lift you up.
Believe in your ability to create a life that expresses your best, most kind, and loving self.

Open up to the possibilities.

If it is important

If it is important to you,
you will find a way.
If not, you will find an excuse.

Decluttering.
Regular exercise.
Food habits.
A challenging relationship.
Hobbies.
_____________.
(you fill in your own blanks)

Excuses waste time you could be spending 
doing things you enjoy, and are meaningful to you,
​or being with people who lift you up.

If you haven’t made the time, 
stuck with your commitment,
supported your effort with loving kindness;
perhaps it isn’t so important to you after all.
Permission granted to let it go.
Move on.

Change it up

Habits can be useful.
Having routines frees us from having to rethink and plan many of our tasks of daily living.
Habits also create ruts and paths in our brain that may not longer serve us,
or reflect how we want to spend our time and energy.

This week, forgo a  habit for a new option.
Drive a different route to the store.
Call instead of sending text.
Try a new recipe.
Shop at an unfamiliar grocery store.
Choose a book in a genre you don’t usually read.
Hand write a note instead of sending an email.
Listen to classical music for 30 minutes, or jazz or blues or zydeco;
  not your usual play list.
Unplug from your devices for an hour in the evening.
Sit outside with your eyes closed for ten minutes and 
  be present with the sounds and smells.
See if you can catch yourself in the brief moment before the habit kicks in,
​and make a different choice.

Jumping out of the ruts in our brains,
finding a different path and outcome,
and seeing other possibilities opens us up to other ways of being in the world.

Despite our best intentions, we rarely make huge changes in our lives.
Many of our decisions and actions are habitual and ingrained.
By taking a few minutes to make a different choice,
see another option,
consider what truly has meaning to us:
We can create the life that reflects our desires, values and best selves.

Pause

Take a breath.

By pausing we get the chance to choose between a reaction and a response.

A pause allows us a moment to give someone the benefit of the doubt.
Lets us act from intention.
Makes a tiny bit of room to make a more appropriate choice.

Pauses are where we begin to change our habits.

The pause is where our choices manifest.
Hang it up instead of dropping it it.
Put it away instead of setting it down.
Not hitting the Buy it Now button.
Letting go of a judgement or a should.
Treating ourselves with kindness.

Taking just a second to wait, remember why you wanted to make a change,
​step back, consider another point of view,
and then respond in a way that feels most appropriate.

Pausing takes practice.
It requires paying attention.
Slowly down, just for a second.

Pause, and give yourself the opportunity to have your intention
shape your response.

Don’t organize

Don’t organize what you don’t need.

Don’t waste time, space, or energy 
creating homes for things you never use,
don’t value and don’t support the life you want to live.

Consider:
How many is enough?
That was then.  This is now.
More isn’t better.

Your house should be a home.
Not a storage space.
Live with less to have room for more…..

Who you are

Who you are is more important than what you do.

You aren’t your job.
Or your title, your pay grade or your bank account balance.

As the past few months have pointed out, things change in a heartbeat (or a sneeze).
We are being challenged to adapt, rethink, pause, rearrange and 
find creative solutions just to get though the week.

This is how who we are manifests.

It’s true that many of your best qualities got you where you are in the world.
And help define what you ‘do’.

Try to let go of your attachments to what you do,
even when that doing-ness is helpful.
Bring your focus to who you are.
What do you value?
What ideas resonate in your heart?
What can you do to show the world who you truly are?

Try being a human being,
not a human doing……

Try a brain dump

Plans, worries, what if’s, should, could, have tos, want tos, and all those other thoughts scurrying around in your brain.
Many of them on a continuous unhelpful loop.

Try this:
Write them down.
Yup, get them out of your head and on to a piece of paper.
(Sure, you could do a Word document or fill up a Note on your phone as an option too)

Don’t filter yourself, or judge what you’re writing, or deny which thoughts 
have been overwhelming or agitating you.
This is an opportunity to declutter your mind.
Make some space.

Once you’ve made your list, set it aside.
Take a break.
Breathe.

Later, come back and look at what you’ve written.
Again with curiosity, not judgment.
Maybe just having written it down might be the relief you need.
Maybe it would be helpful to you to go over the list and see which things 
need your immediate attention.
Which things you can set aside for a while.
Which things you’ve just been ‘shoulding’ on yourself about.  Ewww…

Perhaps this list will generate a manageable To Do list for you.
Perhaps you will see that somethings just need a phone call or an email to get settled.
Perhaps some themes will be apparent regarding real changes you’d like to create for yourself.

Just as decluttering and organizing our physical spaces 
has a positive impact on our surroundings and lives,
decluttering your brain will do the same thing.

Identify your weakness

(Chocolate obviously…)

With regard to your things and clutter; is your weakness:
Acquisition?
Disorganization?
Difficulty getting rid of things?


One of theses areas is probably a more significant struggle for you than the others.
Understanding which of these actions you are most challenged by will help you focus 
your attention and intention on that aspect of the process.
Enabling you to make some small, but powerful changes.

Challenged by Acquisition?
            Try not shopping for a week.
            (Trust me, Amazon will still be there) 
            Drive past the garage sale. 
            Ignore the ‘clearance’ table. 
            Leave your credit/debit cards at home.

Feeling disorganized?
            Start by establishing homes for the things you use every day. 
            Put your keys in the same place. 
            Set up an area to deal with the mail. 
            Don’t put things down, put them away.

Can’t seem to let go?
            Think of who you know that really could use the item, right now.  
            Stop giving Justin Case room in your closet. 
            Acknowledge that was then, this is now; and purge accordingly.


Merely paying closer attention to your thoughts and actions will help you change your behaviors.
The more frequently you exercise your new options, 
the faster you’ll turn your weakness to a strength.

Some days will be easier than others, 
some parts of the process more of a challenge depending on the items involved.

Living a less cluttered, more organized life is a practice and process.