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What I know:

It isn't about our stuff.
It's about our connections.

Bigger. Better. More.
Rarely is.

Our best lives create space
in our homes and hearts
for the people and activities
that make us genuinely happy.

You must be present to win.

Know what you need.

You can’t know what you need if you don’t know what you have.

Much shopping, impulsive and otherwise, comes from thinking you need _________.

So you toss __________ into your cart,
you get home and discover you already have two boxes of __________ on the shelf.
Or three pair of ____________ hanging in the closet.
Or four bags of _____________ in the freezer.

Having items organized, grouped like with like,
and stored where you use them creates a visual inventory.
When you can see and are aware of what you already have,
and you’ve decided how many is enough, you’ll know if you really ‘need’
more of something and your shopping habits will change.

Use lists (a great use of your smart phone) so you can note when
you need to make a purchase.
If you write it down you don’t have to try to remember how many
you have left or if you emptied the container.

(Oh, and just because it’s on sale, doesn’t mean you need it)

Know your limits.
Shop accordingly.




Aim lower.

“The perfect is the enemy of the good.”  Voltaire.

Set aside perfection.
Abandon your inner Pinterest wanna be.

Aim for small improvements, little changes.

Don’t worry about eating off the floor. Start with being able to see the floor!

Sometimes people wait to declutter and organize until 
they have a whole day to work on the project, 
or they have the perfect storage containers, 
or they purchase another bookcase.

Realistically, you can find an hour to work on one area.
Realistically, matching baskets look nice but won’t solve the problem.
Realistically, you will be less cluttered if you sort the books you already own.

It’s okay to lower your expectations from perfect to good.
(and much more likely that you’ll arrive in that place.)

Accept that you only have a limited amount of time, energy and interest.
Remember who and what is most important in your life.

Having a color coded, neatly lined up sock drawer would be perfect.
But unnecessary.
Having a drawer where socks live, and are easy to access.
That’s good!

Let good be perfect.


Make space in under ten minutes.

This week’s idea:  
Three things you can do in ten minutes or less to create space in your life.

Remove all the empty hangers from your closet.
Toss the cheap and flimsy ones.
Take ten of the good ones to the laundry room so you’ll be able to hang things directly from the dryer.
Gain space in your closet without having to try on a thing.

Sort the container of pens on your desk.
Sort the contents.
Remove anything that doesn’t really live there.
(I won’t ask how some of that stuff ended up in there…)
Test every pen/pencil.
Throw away the dried up ones, cheap ones, stubby little pencils.
Figure out how many is enough and limit the container to that amount.

Clean out your wallet.
Take out every item, scrap of paper, card, receipt, photograph, fortune cookie fortune.
Toss/recycle the expired, unnecessary, unreadable and irrelevant.
Decide what really needs to live in there. 
How many credit cards do you need? 
What id needs to be with you all the time? 
If you’re keeping receipts-why?

Choose one little project.
Spend a few minutes.
Change the look and feel of one space in your life.


Is it worth keeping?


Putting things away when you’re finished with them is key to eliminating clutter.

However, before you toss a dried up pen back in the drawer,
put a chipped cup back on the shelf,
hang up a shirt that’s a tiny bit too tight,
or make room for another book on an already crowded shelf;
ask yourself, “Is it worth keeping?” 

Take a moment to stop and consider if you really need
or want to keep the item.

If you don’t, then let it go. 
(You know-recycle, donate, toss.)

No matter the size of your home, your space is limited.
Don’t waste space storing things that don’t support the life you want to be living.

Oh, and let’s not forget the mental or emotional items we’re keeping. 
Is it helpful to hold onto that grudge or resentment, anger or fear?
Would letting go of those stories and memories make space in your head and heart?

It’s your decision what you need and want in the life you’re living right now.

Thoughtful decisions about your home and relationships
reflect what you care about and value.



Crazy talk. (Or is it?)

Daddy's Home for Jun 27, 2017




Be lazy.

“Organized people are just too lazy to look for things.”

This quote made me laugh and rang totally true.

Being organized means I can be lazy.
And that isn’t necessarily a bad thing.

I don’t have to spend my time looking for misplaced items or
shopping for duplicates or digging through piles.

By employing the adage “Work smarter, not harder”,
I am able to make many of the mechanics of daily living  routine and habitual,
so they require minimum effort on my part.

In this case lazy doesn’t mean I don’t get things done or
I spend my time gazing out the window avoiding projects or responsibilities.
(Although I do enjoy the view outside my windows.)

It does mean I have more time to work on projects because
I know where my supplies are and I can easily access them, use them,
and put them away when I’ve finished.

It means I have time to honor my responsibilities and relationships
because I have made them, not my stuff, my priority.

True, it is going to take some non lazy effort to sort through your stuff,
prioritize and then organize it.
Create homes, systems and habits to insure that the things you use,
love and treasure are where you need them when you want them.

Then the laziness can begin in earnest!

Live the life you truly want.
Why would you do otherwise?


Admit it’s over.

 “That was then. This is now” is one of the mantras I teach my clients.  
(In my least bossy voice, of course)

One source of clutter comes from holding on to items connected to a life we no longer live.
(Or ever did for that matter)

Supplies for a hobby we stopped engaging in years ago.
Sports equipment from an activity we abandoned.
Clothes from a different body or life style.  
Supplies for a Do It Yourself project that will never happen.

We want to believe that our lives, tastes and commitments haven’t changed.
That we have the same bodies, abilities and interests we had two, five, or ten years ago.

What’s true is that isn’t the case.
If those hobbies and activities were important to us,
we would be making time and room in our current lives to do them.

Admit it’s over.

Take an objective look at what’s living in your closets, stacked on your shelves,  
or piled in the garage that no longer has use or meaning in your life.  
Get rid of the unused, excess, nagging, guilt inducing stuff.

If you’re not quite ready to let go of things
(or is it what they represent that has the hold on you?),
set yourself a deadline.
If you haven’t pulled out the yarn, played tennis,
or refinished the chair by X date,
be willing to admit it and let the items go.

I invite you to take look at what you’ve been holding on to that
no longer serves the life you want to be living now.

Admit that yes, you’re done with that hobby, activity or project.

It’s okay, really.

Give the supplies, equipment and clothes to people who will use them,
right now, for the lives they are presently living.

Your letting go will create space in your house and life; physically, mentally and emotionally. 

You’ll have more room for this life, the one you’re engaged in right now.

Make that life a reflection of the people and activities that feed your soul and fill your heart.


Change your mind.

Choosing to live an uncluttered life starts with wanting to get rid of distractions.
Once this desire is present, you begin to see your life from this new perspective.
When your mindset has changed, your actions will follow.

What’s distracting you?
What action could you take today, in the next five minutes,
that could move you forward to a less cluttered life?

Your life.
Your choices.

The next three inches.


We’re all pretty aware of what’s in the first three inches of our cupboards or cabinets,
a drawer or a stack of papers.
But what’s in the next three inches?

When we move past the items in the front-those things we use most often,
wear most frequently and
left so we’d be sure to find them; what would we find?

Food we’ll never prepare,
expired medications or supplies,
a sweater with padded shoulders,
an over due bill or over looked check?

This week, try digging a bit deeper.

Choose a cabinet, drawer or pile of papers and sort through it.
What really needs to live in that place?
What needs to be donated or tossed?
What paperwork needs a few minutes of your time and attention?

Maybe spend a few minutes digging a bit deeper personally too.
Are there activities you might be willing to step away from?
Judgments about yourself or others that you’d be willing to let go?
Kind thoughts you’d be willing to articulate in a note to someone special?

It’s good to have important things up front and accessible,
and it’s wise to be aware of what we’re holding on to a bit deeper too…..


Keeping up is easier.

Secret of Adulthood
It’s easier to keep up than catch up.  Gretchen Rubin

Mail, laundry, dishes, house keeping
friendships, work email, putting things away…
Keeping up with these mechanics of daily living,
doing a little bit every day, 
prevents them from becoming overwhelming tasks.

Repeating actions on a daily basis creates habits.
Actions become automatic,
and through repetition your situation changes.

Leave the sense of scrambling behind,
and settle into a calmer easier routine.

What can you do today to create the life you want tomorrow?