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What I know:

It isn't about our stuff.
It's about our connections.

Bigger. Better. More.
Rarely is.

Our best lives create space
in our homes and hearts
for the people and activities
that make us genuinely happy.

You must be present to win.

Stop the seasonal shoulding

You should find the perfect gifts.
You should have a holiday party.
You should feel merry and bright.
You should bake five kinds of cookies.
You should set up your Christmas village.

Stop shoulding on yourself.  

Gift gifts that make you feel connected to the receiver.
Meet friends for lunch.
Feel what you feel, and be okay with it.
Bake one kind of cookie, or support a local bakery and buy theirs.
Choose your favorite piece from the village make it a centerpiece.

Permission granted to do less,
buy fewer things, think smaller, and
make the season bright in a way that resonates with you.

Let your love (not stuff or shoulding), be the Holy Light this season.

Wasting five minutes a day

If you spend five minutes a day looking for your misplaced keys, 
or shuffling back and forth through your closet looking for something to wear, 
or digging around on your desk to find an important, but misplaced paper; 
by the end of the week being disorganized has cost you at least a half an hour.

By month’s end the cost is two hours.
By the end of a year, an entire day.
In seven years, at least a week of your life…….

(You can see where this is heading)

Have a place for everything, and put everything back in its place.
Keep only things that fit, flatter, and you feel good wearing in your closet.
Create and use a simple, easy to follow system for dealing with your mail and paperwork on a regular basis.  (Try just three folders:  Action, Read, File.)

Spend those five minutes a day, 
thirty minutes a week, 
two hours a month  doing what you enjoy, 
with the people you love.

Small changes + new habits = Less clutter.

Gratitude is a verb.

Gratitude is a verb.

Act accordingly.

Give up.

“Give up on yourself.
Begin taking action now, while being neurotic or imperfect, or a procrastinator, or unhealthy, or lazy, or any other label by which you inaccurately describe yourself.
Go ahead and be the best imperfect person you can be
and get started on those things you want to accomplish before you die.”
Shoma Morita


It is easier to take back a no than a yes.

Take time to pause before you agree to one more obligation, 
add one more item to your To Do list,
put one more thing on your plate (literally),
or buy another want that isn’t truly a need.

Mindfully choosing when to say no creates more space and time
to do the things you actually want,
and be with the people you truly love.

Note to self.

You are not too old and it’s not too late.

Choose the life whispering in your heart.

Focus on what you are keeping.

Instead of worrying about the items you are letting go, 
keep your attention on the things you’ve chosen to keep.
Remind yourself why they are important.

Don’t let the ‘what ifs’ and ‘just in case’ scenarios suck you away 
from creating spaces that support the life you desire.
Keep your energy and focus right in front of you.

Fall is the perfect visual reminder of how beautiful letting go can be.

When you’re 80. (or 40 for that matter)

When you’re 80 and you look back, will you say:
“I wish I would have watched more tv.” 
“I so enjoyed the time I spent on adventures and in Mother Nature.”
“Darn, if only I’d spent more time shopping.”
“I’m lucky to have spent so much time with the people I love.”
“All my stuff was what gave my life meaning.”
“Family, friends, moments of joy, moments of grace, 
and pausing to be grateful, made my imperfect life perfect.”


It may seem a clever solution to purchase attractive storage containers to hold your clutter.
However, if all they do is create a new place to stuff your stuff, even if it is an attractive place,
you still have clutter.  
It’s merely in a new location!

A necessary part of the organizing process is to sort through your stuff,
deciding what you really use and love and value.
Once those decisions have been made, then you can measure (literally) what you want to contain as well as measuring the space where you want to store it.

Before you scurry out to buy containers, look around your home.  
Are there baskets, boxes, totes or containers you already own that you can repurpose and use?
Do you have things that would not only hold things but spark pleasant memories
or associations when you looked at or used them? 
Do you associate certain activities with specific containers?  
Could that assist you in remembering what lives where?

It’s okay to want matching containers.
A uniform look and feel to storage solutions does eliminate visual clutter
and can add a sense of simplicity and calmness to a space.
You get to choose.
You are creating spaces that you enjoy and that support the life and activities that are important to you.

Be realistic.

This week’s idea:  Be Realistic

Set aside perfection.
Abandon your inner Marie Kondo.

Aim for small improvements, little changes.

Don’t worry about eating off the floor.  Start with being able to see the floor!

Sometimes people wait to declutter and organize until they have a whole day to work on the project, or until they have the perfect storage containers, or they purchase another bookcase.

Realistically, spending thirty minutes or an hour at a time will be the most productive.
Realistically, matching baskets look nice but won’t solve the problem.
Realistically, you’ll be more organized if you sort the books you already own.

It’s okay to lower your expectations from perfect to good.
(and much more likely that you’ll arrive at that place.)

Accept that you only have a limited amount of time, energy and interest. 
Remember who and what is most important in your life.

Having a color coded, neatly lined up sock drawer would be perfect.
But unnecessary.
Having a drawer where socks live, that is easy to access.
That’s good!

Be realistic.
Good really is good enough.