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What I know:

It isn't about our stuff.
It's about our connections.

Bigger. Better. More.
Rarely is.

Our best lives create space
in our homes and hearts
for the people and activities
that make us genuinely happy.

You must be present to win.

A good life

“Imperfection is required for a good life.” KC Davis. 

How to Keep House While Drowning, a new book by KC Davis,
is the most thoughtful and compassionate book I have ever read about 
cleaning and organizing.
And ultimately about the importance of self care.

If you really want to change your life,
feel more organized and less stressed:
Let go of your need for perfection.

Be kind to yourself.

PS:  Of course, there are still practical and clever ideas that can
help you think about what you own,
manage how you structure your day,
and handle the mechanics of daily living
Which I will continue to share.

KC Davis:  https://www.strugglecare.com/about

Math

Ten isn’t ten times better than one.
It’s one, ten times over.

More isn’t better.
It’s just more.

Sometimes it fits our life and life style to have multiples of items.
Sometimes it makes things easier when we can readily access items
we use in different rooms of our house.
Other times duplicates just get in our way.
Or makes choosing what to wear, or do, or use more difficult.

Keeping track of, maintaining, and storing things we don’t use, love or value
takes time and energy, space and effort.

When facing a shelf filled with mugs,
ten pairs of jeans,
two sets of golf clubs,
or china for eight-
ask yourself:
How much is enough?

Experiment with having fewer things
in order to have more space.
And more time
for the key people and things that mean the most.

Choose a category

If organizing your closet or kitchen or garage or office seems
like an overwhelming and time consuming task,
just choose one category and start there.

Sort through your tee shirts.
Start with the shelf of mugs.
Tackle  the gardening tools.
Clear the top of your desk.

Ask:
How many _____________ is enough?
Do I really need, use or value this?
Is this left over from a past interest or way of doing things?
Could someone else use this right now?
Having I been holding onto this for Justin Case?

Little bites, twenty minutes at a time,
sorting and organizing one section/drawer/shelf will make a difference.

Make space for the life you want to be living.

What matters

“Just look at us.
All of us.
Quietly doing our own thing
  and trying to matter.
The earnestness is inspiring,
and heartbreaking at the same time.” 
 Amy Krouse Rosenthal

What matters in your life?
Or perhaps, more importantly, who?

What small thing can you do every day to make sure  
you are spending your time, energy and love 
​on what matters most to you.

Make your bed

Make your bed. Every morning. 
I can hear your eyes rolling….. 
(Remember the Two Minute Rule:  If you can do something in less than Two Minutes, do it now.)

 I know, I know.  
You’re thinking: Why bother making it?  You’re just going to get back into it later.

However, taking the time to neaten than one little area in your house creates a feeling of control. 
It gives you one place among the piles and stacks that is clear and clean. 
A clutter free place for your eyes to rest.

It won’t magically transform the entire situation in your home, 
but it will give you a small success to build on.

Having one small space of neatness shows you what’s possible:  
You can change the look and feel of your home. 

Try it. Tomorrow morning. 
Make your bed. 
And begin to declutter your life. 

Small  changes + new habits = Less clutter.

Less Stuff.  More Possibilities.

Too busy

 “I’m too busy.”  Or am I?

The statement, “I’m too busy” is often accompanied by feelings of being frantic, distracted and a bit overwhelmed.  Ack!
However, if I tell myself, “I have plenty of time for the things that are important to me.”  
I feel a sense of calm and control over how I choose to spend my time and energy.  Ahh…

Matching our activities to our values and priorities is key 
to creating the uncluttered and authentic life we desire.
Permission to say No, without explanation, excuses or details 
is a powerful first step to making time for who and what we love and value.

We can’t make time or save time:  We can only manage our time.
Remind yourself what and who is truly important in your life and act accordinly.

You  have plenty of time for the things that are important to you.  

They’re still making ’em.

Having trouble deciding about letting go of some stuff in your life?

Going through some much loved and well worn sweatshirts with a client recently,
she realized that, yes, they are still making sweatshirts.
And if she needed an additional one in the future, she could buy it.

It was a funny and illuminating Ah Ha moment.

What might you be holding on to that they are still making?
What are you keeping two of that if you needed a third (or fourth?) of,
is still available?

This came up again today when a client sent a photo
of a big box of jars she’d been keeping;
that had taken up an entire shelf in her (rather small) kitchen.
She was finally ready to recycle them.
Yup.  They’re still making jars.

Ten of something isn’t ten times better than one.
It’s one, ten times over….

Might as well…

I’m opening the mail; 
I might as well recycle the junk.
I’m going into the kitchen;
I might as well take my cup and put it in the dishwasher.
I’ve folded the laundry;
I might as well put it away.
I’m online;
I might as well pay some bills.
I appreciate the help I received;
I might as well say Thank You.

I might as well seems like a reluctant after thought,
but
it could be a powerful way to make some small changes 
in how you go about your day.

You might as well try it,
just to see…….

You can’t have it all.

Where would you put it?

Recognizing there are real limits to your time, money, energy, interest,
and mental bandwidth will be a relief and not a disappointment.

Accepting the fact that boundaries and limits are healthy,
and that expectations can be more overwhelming than inspiring;
allows us the space to pause and make decisions
that resonate with our best selves.

Not wanting it all
opens us to see that what we consciously choose
will be enough.

Buy nothing day.

Choose one day this week and don’t buy anything.

Skip the Buy it Now button.
Bring your lunch.
Don’t stop at the store on the way home.

Being aware of how, where, why, and how often we spend our money
will increase our awareness of buying habits and behaviors.

Shopping takes time, energy, and money (obviously).
All of which are limited.
Pay attention, not just to what you buy-but why?
What exactly are you ‘spending’?
​And what is it exactly you are hoping to get?

As Annie Dillard said,
How we spend our days is of course how we spend our lives.”