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What I know:

It isn't about our stuff.
It's about our connections.

Bigger. Better. More.
Rarely is.

Our best lives create space
in our homes and hearts
for the people and activities
that make us genuinely happy.

You must be present to win.

Done beats perfect.

Stop waiting until you have extra time,
or money,
or the exact shade of paint,
or you take another class,
or you get permission,
or you get an apology.

Waiting for the stars to align,
or you perfect the technique,
or your skill level hits mastery,
or even until ‘later’;
keeps you from enjoying the discovery of a process
and stops you from getting on with your life..
And often creates mental and physical clutter.

Holding out for perfect keeps us stuck.
Do the best you can, where you are, with what you have.
Finish the project with what’s available to you right now, 
or agree to abandon it.
Either is a valid and acceptable choice.
I promise.
Move on.

Make it easy.

Life is complicated.
Look for ways to make it easy.

The fewer steps involved the more likely you are to comply.

Storing frequently used items in a bin?
Leave the lid off.

Filing papers?
Use the broad categories.
(Paid bills, Important documents, Current year tax information, etc.)
IF you need to retrieve the paper, then look through the file.

Use hooks to hang frequently worn or reworn clothes.
Much easier than wrestling with a hanger.

Keep your grocery list on your phone.
You’ll have it with you when you are at the store.

Pay bills online.
No need to write checks or search for a stamp.

The best way to eliminate extra steps?
Quit doing things that aren’t helping you live your best life.
Stop living from should and start living from choice.

Two minute rule

If you can do it in two minutes or less, do it now.

Recycle it.
Hang it up.
Put it away.
​Reply to the email.
Toss it in the trash.
Make the phone call.
Load it into the dishwasher.
Give someone the benefit of the doubt.

It’s in your hand, deal with it now.
Take care of it now and you won’t have to handle it later.
(Later you’ll be in the midst of other things needing your time and attention)
Trust me.
You can take care of many small tasks in under two minutes.  
I promise.

If you can do it in two minutes or less, do it now.

That was Then.

That was then.
This is now.

Then you were often the host of meals and parties for twenty.
Now you invite three or four people for dessert and conversation.
(Do you need all those serving dishes?)

Then you baked cakes and cookies and tried new recipes all the time.
Now you stop by the great local bakery and buy one or two treats.
(Do you still need a cupboard filled with cookie sheets and five sizes and shapes of cake pans?)

Then you wore professional clothes to work every day.
Now you’re retired. Or working from home.
(Do you still need a closet filled with clothes for a life you no longer lead?)

Then you played golf, or tennis, or skied, or did beading, or created hand made cards, or, or, or?
Now you don’t.
(Do you still need equipment and supplies for hobbies you no longer enjoy?)

Are you getting the drift?
Clutter can be the result of not letting go of Then, and
failing to realize and recognize you and your life have moved on to Now.

That was then.
Be here now.

Give up

Yup.
Give up.
Give up trying to be perfect.
Give up comparing yourself-to anyone.
Give up always needing to be right, (or have the last word).
Give up waiting for all the ducks to be in a row before you start.

Then, give yourself permission to:
Retire an expectation.
Be okay with being imperfect.
Let No, be a complete sentence.
(No explanation, justification, apology)
Try something new, just for the fun of it.

Striving, comparing, and competing is exhausting.
Give up the fight.
See what spaces open up.
Pay attention to how it feels to let go.
​Give yourself the chance to have the life your heart is longing for.

Little bites

When a project or task seems a bit overwhelming;
organizing the garage or going through old photos;
start with just a little bite.

Focus on one shelf.
Go through one box.
Literally, set a timer for 15 minutes.

Making a few thoughtful, focused decisions
moves the process forward.
Small positive results and changes build on themselves 
and reinforce the progress you are making.

It took time for the situation to get to where it is (ack),
and it will take time to create the organization and systems
you desire.
Start small.
Be consistent.
Acknowledge your progress.
Change will happen.

Forget about how it looks

If you’re interested in changing how your house house looks,
think about how you want it to feel.

Our brains tell us lots of stories (many of which aren’t true).
Many of them shoulds, expectations and judgements.

Before you start your next ‘little bite’ of organizing a space,
pause and consider how you want the space to feel.
Forget about how it’s supposed to look, or
what should be in there,
or what other people will think about what you’ve done.

How is what you want different from how it feels currently?
What would need to change to make your desire the reality?
Let that be your guide.

Cluttered is a look.
Being relaxed in the space is a feeling.
Organized is a look.
Comfortable is a feeling.
Open space is a look.
Welcoming is a feeling.
Neatly arranged is a look.
Ease of accessibility is a feeling.

There is a connection between how you use (or don’t use)
a space and how you feel there.
Use that sense to help guide you in making the descisions
of what to keep and how to store those things.

You are far more likely to maintain a space that feels good to you,
that you enjoy using, and where you like to spend time.
​Create spaces that support the life you want to be living.

Not worth keeping

Often things get put away or tossed into the laundry
or put back in the drawer when they really should be discarded.

The pen that doesn’t write that gets stuffed back into the cup.
The stained tee shirt that gets tossed into the laundry hamper.
The  3/4 empty box of stale cereal that never gets eaten.
The toy that is missing a part goes back into the toy box.

Deal with the broken, used up, worn out, or unnecessary item while it is in your hand.
(Make it easy by having trash and recycle containers available in every room.)

Don’t waste storage space on things that have out lived their use and value.
Be honest with yourself and realistic about mending, repairing, repurposing, or ever eating.
Deal with it now, so you don’t have to be confronted with it again in the future.

Don’t like it?

If you don’t like it, don’t keep it.

Are you keeping something hoping you will
start to like it,
or wear it,
or use it?
Probably not going to happen.

The air in your house, (or dust in your closet)
isn’t going to imbue the item with some kind of
make it likable magic.

Poof.
Let it go!
Feel the magic of having more space,
less stuff, and room to live your best life.

Pause

Yes, you have a busy life.
Yes, things feel a bit overwhelming.
Yes, it seems no one else is pulling their weight.
Yes, you could use a break.

So, take one.
Hit the Pause button.
Break the cycle of hurry, scurry, worry, fret.
Take a breath.
One slow inhalation.
One slow exhalation.
Give it your entire attention.

Feeling bold?
Take a second one.
Be in your body for the entire breath.

See if things don’t shift, just a tiny bit.
Grounding yourself, for even a minute,
will give you a sense of a bit more control.

Reminding yourself to pay attention to your breath
is good practice for paying attention to whatever it is you are doing;
right now, in this moment.

Pausing gives you a chance to consider a different choice,
opt for a different reaction, and
remember who and what is important in your life.