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What I know:

It isn't about our stuff.
It's about our connections.

Bigger. Better. More.
Rarely is.

Our best lives create space
in our homes and hearts
for the people and activities
that make us genuinely happy.

You must be present to win.

Make your bed

Make your bed. Every morning. 
I can hear your eyes rolling….. 
(Remember the Two Minute Rule:  If you can do something in less than Two Minutes, do it now.)

 I know, I know.  
You’re thinking: Why bother making it?  You’re just going to get back into it later.

However, taking the time to neaten than one little area in your house creates a feeling of control. 
It gives you one place among the piles and stacks that is clear and clean. 
A clutter free place for your eyes to rest.

It won’t magically transform the entire situation in your home, 
but it will give you a small success to build on.

Having one small space of neatness shows you what’s possible:  
You can change the look and feel of your home. 

Try it. Tomorrow morning. 
Make your bed. 
And begin to declutter your life. 

Small  changes + new habits = Less clutter.

Less Stuff.  More Possibilities.

Too busy

 “I’m too busy.”  Or am I?

The statement, “I’m too busy” is often accompanied by feelings of being frantic, distracted and a bit overwhelmed.  Ack!
However, if I tell myself, “I have plenty of time for the things that are important to me.”  
I feel a sense of calm and control over how I choose to spend my time and energy.  Ahh…

Matching our activities to our values and priorities is key 
to creating the uncluttered and authentic life we desire.
Permission to say No, without explanation, excuses or details 
is a powerful first step to making time for who and what we love and value.

We can’t make time or save time:  We can only manage our time.
Remind yourself what and who is truly important in your life and act accordinly.

You  have plenty of time for the things that are important to you.  

They’re still making ’em.

Having trouble deciding about letting go of some stuff in your life?

Going through some much loved and well worn sweatshirts with a client recently,
she realized that, yes, they are still making sweatshirts.
And if she needed an additional one in the future, she could buy it.

It was a funny and illuminating Ah Ha moment.

What might you be holding on to that they are still making?
What are you keeping two of that if you needed a third (or fourth?) of,
is still available?

This came up again today when a client sent a photo
of a big box of jars she’d been keeping;
that had taken up an entire shelf in her (rather small) kitchen.
She was finally ready to recycle them.
Yup.  They’re still making jars.

Ten of something isn’t ten times better than one.
It’s one, ten times over….

Might as well…

I’m opening the mail; 
I might as well recycle the junk.
I’m going into the kitchen;
I might as well take my cup and put it in the dishwasher.
I’ve folded the laundry;
I might as well put it away.
I’m online;
I might as well pay some bills.
I appreciate the help I received;
I might as well say Thank You.

I might as well seems like a reluctant after thought,
it could be a powerful way to make some small changes 
in how you go about your day.

You might as well try it,
just to see…….

You can’t have it all.

Where would you put it?

Recognizing there are real limits to your time, money, energy, interest,
and mental bandwidth will be a relief and not a disappointment.

Accepting the fact that boundaries and limits are healthy,
and that expectations can be more overwhelming than inspiring;
allows us the space to pause and make decisions
that resonate with our best selves.

Not wanting it all
opens us to see that what we consciously choose
will be enough.

Buy nothing day.

Choose one day this week and don’t buy anything.

Skip the Buy it Now button.
Bring your lunch.
Don’t stop at the store on the way home.

Being aware of how, where, why, and how often we spend our money
will increase our awareness of buying habits and behaviors.

Shopping takes time, energy, and money (obviously).
All of which are limited.
Pay attention, not just to what you buy-but why?
What exactly are you ‘spending’?
​And what is it exactly you are hoping to get?

As Annie Dillard said,
How we spend our days is of course how we spend our lives.”

That was then. This is now.

That was then. 
This is now, 
is one of my favorite ways to help people reframe how they think about their stuff.

Then I used to play golf, or knit, or dress professionally for my job,
or have dinner parties for ten.
Now I don’t do any of those things.

Perhaps another way to consider Then and Now:
Then I used to have baskets of laundry.
Now I do a load every day and it’s less overwhelming.
Then I shopped for fun and entertainment.
Now I call a friend a meet for a walk.
Then I said Yes.
Now, I carefully consider what I am willing to add to my schedule.

Organizing and decluttering isn’t just about what you are letting go.
It’s about what you need and want in your life today.
How you want to spend the limited amount of time and energy you have.
It’s about making your Now a reflection of who and what is really important to you.

Trying to help

Treat yourself as if you are someone you are trying to help.

We are much harder on ourselves than we are on others.
Our self talk is much harsher than anything we would say to someone else who might be struggling.

Change is hard.
Creating new habits takes time and usually involves messing up.
Let that be okay.

How would you speak to, encourage, support or applaud
someone you knew who was trying to simplify their life?

Stop shaming or shoulding on yourself when you
forget to put something away, or open your mail, or
leave the laundry in the dryer, again.

Trying treating yourself with a little tenderness and grace.
(And not just around the subject of being more organized……)

Aspirational clutter

The books you think you should read.
The food you think you should cook.
The clothes that fit a fashion trend, but not your body.
The abandoned DIY house project.
The exercise equipment buried under plies of random stuff.

Take a look around.
Be honest.
Are you going to read, cook, wear, finish, or ever use those things?
If so, organize them.
If not, be generous.
Let them go to someone who needs or wants them, right now.

There’s nothing wrong with aspirations;
just make sure that what you are hoping to do
is a reflection of who you are, and the life you really want.

The point

The point isn’t just to make your life easier.
It’s to make it more meaningful.

Although it is true that a less cluttered and more organized life is easier to navigate.
Not having to deal with piles, or stacks, or a general air of chaos
makes the mechanics of daily life less time consuming.

But the real aim of living a life with less ‘stuff’ is it to give your life more meaning.
Not spending your time shopping, or comparing,
or feeling anxious about how what you have measurers up:
It allows you to focus on who and what really matter to you.
You have more time and energy to spend doing what you love,
and being with the people who matter most to you.

How you spend your money and your time are a direct reflection of 
what and who have meaning in your life.

Invest your money and your time connecting your values to your actions.
You only have so much time and so much money:
How do you want to spend it?